–Note: Keep in mind that this is the recollection of personally experienced things about friends and much of it is just that: personal.
That is to say that it includes seemingly minor things i.e. friend-drama, which are major when experienced by the person experiencing them or anyone else who has had similar experiences, but might seem menial to anyone else.
What’s interesting about this kind of blog entry though I think, is that one can see philosophical principles in action, and as they might apply to their own life or anybody’s for that matter, but in a practical, everyday-philosophy sort of way.–
Friends are tricky, and point of view between friends is even trickier.
This is in spite of everything but one rule a person can go by to cross-reference through all the different angles. This rule is called ‘a convergence of evidence.’
The COE (convergence of evidence) depends on two rules in itself:
1) It must be from as many sources as possible, and those sources must be relatively independent of each other.
2) Any observation which remains provisionally true (as close as possible to the most likelihood) must run nearly across the board as a repeatable common denominator to those instances.
Such is the basis of all inductive thought.
In seeing yet another friend plunge into the depths subjectivism*, revealing that yet again, unspoken social rules trump loyalty to objective ideas–I have written yet another friend off. That is, I wrote him an email disbanding our relationship, overnight.
(*Subjectivism is a moral philosophy which claims that man can gain no ultimate knowledge of the reality in which he lives. It is crucial to point out that in contemporary living, this is applied to just about everything more abstractly philosophical.)
This ‘ostracizing’ of one former friend or another may seem a bit ‘extreme’ to most, especially these days, but I have to assure myself of its purpose, which I will disclose in a moment…
First off though, why is it that moral condemnation should be practiced? Does it work?
The question: ‘does it work?’ I should add, I is context sensitive:
That is, it doesn’t really hold up in ‘actuality’ since, moral condemnation on actual terms doesn’t necessarily do much good, especially within the socio-moral context we live in which it pretty much guarantees the repetition of the same behavior.
So, if some friend is doing something you don’t like, that is, clashes highly with one’s moral principles, what is one to do?
I have such situations arise all the time since my philosophy conflicts so highly with that of any given person from just about any given society on Earth today, it seems.
Recently a friend of mine phoned in to tell another friend of mine, that he was ‘disappointed in him’ due to his ‘drunkenness’ and ‘deriding to females’ type of behavior at HIS (the accuser’s) party.’
I know for a fact that this friend has gotten a bit carried away at get togethers, but never have I heard anything resembling being ‘out of hand.’ I remember him being passed out in about every instance I can think of that I have witnessed first hand, and multiple people confirm nothing that contradicts that.
Continued Tomorrow in Part II…